04 April 2013

I've Moved!


I am now posting at www.peteandbuzz.com -- please come visit me there!!

Why did I move? Well, I needed a place with a little more space. I wanted to merge my shop and blog into one bigger presence and use the space to tell real life stories AND share handmade and creative love. And I'm not identifying with the "housewife" label as much as I used to. Sure, I still clean the house. Sometimes.

So -- visit my new digs to see my quilts and blankets, for creative inspiration, writing, photography, and plenty of honest and transparent real life.

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27 February 2013

I'll Only Do This Once


Moving. It's something I did so very much of as a kid, packing boxes, saying goodbye to friends, excited about new bedrooms and meeting new neighbors, missing pets that tried to go back home. I think change is character building. But it's also really really hard.

Sometimes to experience growth and blessings, we have to push our way through difficult change. 

And so -- the re-branding of this blog. The new domain name. The merging of handmade shop and blog. The solidifying of goals and personal style. The changes that needed to happen. I went for it.

And maybe only thirteen of you will follow me. That's OK.

Here's the rub: I have been on a journey to find myself, to discover what I really deep down care about. I've been searching for my own authentic voice, the one that speaks without worry of what the listener will say. I've been digging up my passions and dusting them off, naming them and getting them dressed for the day. This space is more up front and you-get-what-you-get than it has been in the past and I'm more proud of it than I have been in earlier days.

If you are interested in handmade things, outdoor adventures, philanthropy, healthy eating, and topics of faith -- you'll want to follow all my posts. You'll love it. You'll be inspired and encouraged.

But I won't be posting about fashion, crafts {well, not many}, or pop culture. :)

So -- goodbye "Housewife in Town", hello "Pete and Buzz"!

Would those of you who want to stay with me do a couple things? 
1) resubscribe by email if you like getting an email each time I post {see sidebar}
2) like Pete and Buzz on Facebook to get updates from me {new posts, random thoughts, etc}
3) let me know if you run across any broken links as you click through the new digs
4) tell me what you think in the comments!

THANK YOU.

24 February 2013

{dear you}


I write such great blog posts in the shower. It's the only place quiet enough for me to get intimate with my thoughts and form complete, logical sentences. Seriously, you guys, I need a waterproof keyboard.

So this post is me, sitting out here in my chair {fully dressed} trying to remember my warm-water-induced logic. Wish me luck.

Photography
We went up to the snow again today, this time with our cross country skis {and snowshoes for the littlest one}. I geared everyone up, grabbed my camera and started snapping some pictures. Then, as we started moving away from the car, I realized I really truly didn't want to take it with me. I have a thousand pictures of these boys in the snow, my right hand gets cold without its glove and I want to SKI. Which might include falling over into the FEET of powder and lodging snow all over inside my poor camera. So I asked Tim to unlock the car and put it safely away.

It was a really hard choice.

And it leaves me wondering what to do -- because part of me love love loves capturing our fun adventurous memories and want to actually travel the world to take photographs and the other part of me wants to really truly adventure -- getting wet, smashed against rocks, banged up and bruised {well, maybe not to that degree, but you get the idea, right?}. I just don't want to have to worry about my camera getting ruined or trying to get that perfect shot instead of enjoying the adrenaline of the activity. Oh dear. What to do.

My only brain wave {in the shower} was to get some really great shots of us doing the fun stuff not too far from the car, then return the camera to its safe place and go be wild and crazy. But that only works in some situations. Other times -- take the waterproof, dust-proof, bang-proof camera that takes sorta-good photos and be satisfied. OK. Still working on other possible solutions. :)

Guilt
I have a problem with guilt. Oh my do I ever. It's closely related to negative self-talk. And it is generally debilitating and just plain annoying. But it's so deeply ingrained within me -- it's going to take some hard work to get out. Tim says he'll tell me if I should REALLY be feeling guilty...all the other times, stop!

It gets really hard to enjoy the present moment when I'm feeling guilty about all sorts of other things. I need to stop that. 

Finishing Things
I finished reading three books today while we drove to the snow. I may have skimmed through some of them {man, why can't some books be written with bullet points on about half as many pages?} but nevertheless it feels SO good to finish them. In the shower, I realized that I like finishing things because it means I can start something new. I really like starting new things. But something inside me won't let me until the old is finished.

And that's about when my shower ended {mostly out of guilt and partly because I knew my rememberer couldn't store many more amazing realizations}. I'll take another one soon.

Three Things Mothers Cannot Do Without
Hot Showers.
Chocolate.
Freedom from guilt.

21 February 2013

tonight's random >> plant a seed with your silliest face


:: we planted some seeds in our toilet paper rolls. think they'll grow? my husband isn't super hopeful.

:: these guys cannot help being silly. it's in their blood.

:: they eventually helped me a bit. and then went on to take flying leaps off couch cushions.

I'm tired. That's probably not super random. We call it being. a. mom. I'm reading the book Desperate by Sally Clarkson and Sarah Mae. It's good. There are other tired moms in the world. Join the club.

Chocolate. A hot shower. Early bedtime. Hike tomorrow.

19 February 2013

{inspire} utah tour


We're planning a whirlwind family trip to Utah this summer -- it's going to be so so fun!! I've been watching Sheena's tales of her family's adventures throughout Utah national parks. Wow, she's such a fun mom. So inspirational. :)

We'll be on the road for 10 or 11 days, spending only one night at each campsite {that's how we roll} and seeing LOTS of stuff. Have you been to Utah? What would you recommend we see? 

Here's our rough itinerary so far:
Utah Lake
Zion, specifically The Narrows
Lake Powell, tour of the dam 
Bryce Canyon
Goblin Valley
Arches NP
Mesa Verde

I know. That's a lot to see in one trip! But with younger kids, it works best for us to jet around and not spend too long in one place. Or maybe that works best for me. Or maybe I'll take this all back when we're done.

Here's some more inspiration for ya...can't EVER get enough Utah photography.

18 February 2013

{faith} honey, where are the kids?


Our pastor gave an illustration a couple weeks ago that made me smile and write some notes on my bulletin. He painted the picture of parents who finally get some time to themselves -- a weekend away or just an afternoon date. The first few hours are glorious with great conversation and laughter and then she glances into the backseat of the car to check on them and he takes the Disney CD out of the player and they exchange that look that says, "yeah, we kinda miss them."

They drive us NUTS, but yet, we do begin to miss them when they're not around.

We probably drive God nuts, in a way, but He still really wants to be with us. Regardless.

We are His creation, made in His image. He didn't stop at that though -- now we are His redeemed ones, rescued through ultimate sacrifice. We're pretty important to Him.

Read the rest at 5 Minutes for Faith... :)

15 February 2013

{real life} self-sooth and get your pants dirty


Today, I'm sharing some photos from our recent outside adventures with a few parenting and life tidbits thrown in for good measure. Happy day after "ball day" {what Ezra calls it now}.
I participated in a parenting webinar the other night, hosted by Amy McCready of Positive Parenting Solutions. Good stuff. Want a peek at my notes?
Children have plenty of needs {hah! don't we know!} but above physical needs like food and clothing and a safe place to sleep, they have these higher level needs that affect their behavior:
     --they need to feel emotionally connected
     --they need to feel significant
     --they need age-appropriate power {independence, control over their lives}

Children DON'T KNOW how to get these needs met. They will try negative behaviors to try to get power or significance or connection -- whatever works. They need training and guidance to learn appropriate ways to get these needs met!

Three parenting strategies that often backfire:
      --time out {becomes a power struggle}
      --counting 1-2-3 {teaches the child that they have three chances before they are expected to obey}
      --rewards {trains children to be externally motivated, they may not do what you ask if the reward isn't enough}
So at this point, all the parents attending the webinar were up in arms saying "what do we do instead?! you're taking away our only tools!" and of course, Amy has paid curriculum that she is hoping to sell so the webinar didn't provide all the answers. One takeaway {that we've already put into practice} is the "When--Then" strategy. "When your toys are put away, then you may go play outside with your friends." "When you eat the rest of your meal, then you may have a dessert." This works in many situations. Not all, of course, but many.

Above all -- try to avoid power struggles, teach delayed gratification based on internal motivators, try not to argue or negotiate, and expect obedience at the first request. We sometimes count down if the child needs a few seconds to wrap things up and needs an auditory reminder that time's a-wasting! Last night, the mess wasn't being cleaned up fast enough so story-time went from three down to two, then down to one. They will begin to realize that with fast obedience, their privileges remain intact.


12 February 2013

{dear ezra} my little snuggler


Dear Ezra,

You are super cool. And it's about time you got a little note from your mama. You are my fast-growing-up baby with the spunkiest personality and the softest hair. Sometimes I let you get away with silly things {like sneaking food out of the pantry early in the morning}, cause I know they make you happy. You have the best faces, the tightest hugs, the cutest laugh.

I took you fabric shopping with me the other day and you were fun to shop with!! You were patient. You showed interest in fabric options. You played hide and seek with the cutting counter ladies. You snuggled up to the aisle of cuddle fabrics and minkey, so delighted. You love feeling soft things and cuddling up on my lap for a story. You are a feeler.

You like squishy mud. You like making dust in the air. You'd play in the sink more often if I'd let you.

Remote controls and you are best buds. You so so often want me to remote you or your Lego airplanes. Lately, the garage door opener button is your favorite. You have to be the one to open and close the door whenever we go somewhere.

You love Taco Bell. You get instantly hungry whenever we happen to drive by.

You're quick to yell and hit, it's true. You have a strong personality. But you also love deeply, usually expressed with physical touch.

You jumped off the diving board into the pool last week. You're brave.

You're my little cuddle bug and smiley ray of sunshine. I love you to the moon and back.

XOXO,
Your Mama :)